Sunday morning chats with my brother in England usually involve a brief trip down memory lane. This is followed by boasting about our kids and grandkids. We’ll slip in a little of our country’s politics. And always end by reminding each other how fortunate we are. He is 87. I am, well – his older sister.
In today's chat I shared this quote: It is not what you do for your children, but what you taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings. Of course, we proudly agreed our kids and grandkids had turned out to be good human beings. And, deserved or not, we took some of the credit.
Interesting that our teaching method mirrored that we witnessed as youngsters. It was education by observation. No sit-down serious conversations. We saw the results of teamwork. We watched an unparalleled work ethic. We saw kindness. There was no favoritism. The best you could give was anticipated. We learned to cook, clean, fix, and survive. We were given meaningful jobs. We received praise for jobs well done. There was no ‘is this OK with you honey?’ Acceptance of foods, rules, chores and honesty was expected – it was not a choice.
As always, at the end of our chat we did not feel deprived. We felt grateful. We appreciated having lived in a simpler time when there were more individuals from whom we could learn – just by observation.