When you hear "hoarder" what do you visualize? I see a home spilling over with useless stuff. I see individuals traumatized by fear of losing any of their stuff.
There is another less obvious kind of hoarder. We see them every day. They may be looking back at us from the mirror. This hoarder is afraid to part with his or her hoard of money and objects; or their intangible time and knowledge. Their physical space is not spilling over. They do have a lot of unused treasure. Their rationale for hoarding? They might need IT.
When my grandchildren were young, one of my favorite admonitions was 'life works on the law of the boomerang - whatever you throw out, that's what will come back to you.' One of my quick thinking grandchildren said 'well yes, grandma, but it might come back and hit me on the head.' Out of the mouths of youngsters. It did make me think. If we throw out ten boomerangs and only one comes back and hits us on the head (or disappoints us) - is that a risk worth taking? Yes. These are great odds.
These same grandchildren, now in their thirties, heard my thoughts on giving away spare stuff, money, and time. Grandma! We don’t have spare stuff, we don't have spare time, and we definitely don’t have spare money. OK. So, would you rather be a hoarder in training or a giver in training? The results are in for following either discipline. Take your pick.
How much do you need? What do you get delight from owning or doing? That's what you need to keep. If it makes you too nervous, give yourself a buffer.
What’s left allows us to throw out more boomerangs. Odds are most will come back with rewards we can use. And the boomerangs keep circling.
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