My nieces and I share frequent emails across the pond. Recently I received one that gave me reasons to think about what and how I communicate.
Here is part of Lorraine’s message:
It isn't often I get thanked just for being me. I think we, most of us, go through life doing the best we can but too often it is our faults that are highlighted. All too easy for us to forget to mention the good stuff!
She continued: I recently reconnected with several school friends and was amazed by their memories of me. Rather comforting to hear I existed outside my everyday life if that makes sense. It makes us realize it is important to share, to keep hold of the fragile threads that connect us with people who have touched our lives.
How true. How steadying. How seemingly difficult to comment on the good stuff.
Maybe, just for today, I will forget to mention the open cabinet doors and thank the ‘culprit’ for putting away the dishes. Perhaps I will not frown when my friend is late picking me up and thank them for such a generous gesture. Heck, I might even tell the carwash youngster what a great job he did, even though he didn’t clean out the cup holder. Keep doing these things, and – with luck - it becomes a habit to mention the good stuff. What a refreshing thought.
Think about it: Once we chase out trivial annoyances that consume so much of our brain; it’s miraculous how much that remains is good stuff. Mention the good stuff.
Thanks Lorraine, I’m working on it.
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