This past week I was asked to read and respond honestly to the draft of a new author’s story. It was an honor. I said to myself in a stern voice – “Remember you were asked to read not edit.” No correcting spelling or grammar, no deciding a different word would have been better. Just read. I did just that.
The story was fun, interesting, relatable. I learned quite a bit as well. I enjoyed it. I enjoyed it because I was not looking for what might be wrong, or ways I would change the story.
The experience made me realize how often we approach life -- people, places, and things with a what’s wrong attitude. We enter a restaurant – we quickly survey the place. The wall art is crooked. The chairs look uncomfortable. Where are the tablecloths? Our what's wrong scan continues. Why? We're here to dine – not change the décor.
At the expositions our company produces we go through the building like Sherlock Holmes. We're searching for exhibits that don’t meet standards. Looking for anything wrong, something we need to correct. Why do we do this? Of course we need to make sure everything is safe and inviting. Unfortunately, we’re so focused on what's wrong we often overlook the good stuff.
What happens when we remove our what's wrong glasses? I don’t know about you, but my mindset changes. Instead of scowling at my car as though it got dirty just to annoy me; I look and think – that’s the best little car. It might deserve a wash.
What would happen if instead of looking for what’s wrong, we look for what’s right? If we try to be more like Pollyanna than Chicken Little? I’m not sure, I’m pretty sure though that we – and those around us – would be more relaxed. We might even discover there's a lot more right than there is wrong.
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