In her Blog a few weeks ago a friend included a phrase that made me stop. Made me think.

She wrote - Because you carry it well doesn't mean it's not heavy.  She wasn't referring to me 

specifically.  The words apply to so many.

I thought of friends and colleagues who have lost a loved one, are dealing with serious health 

issues, experiencing different life changing traumas.

We say 'How are you doing?'  Mostly they will say 'I'm fine. I'm OK.'  How do we respond without probing?

It's difficult.  We don't want to shift the load in the wrong direction.

And so, I asked a friend who has carried heavy loads.  What do we say?  Her answer.  Simply say - 'If the load

gets too heavy, I hope you'll  allow me to help carry whatever I can.'

That's what friends are for.

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